The Return of the Child: A Seamless Handover

Child Custody in AlbuquerqueIf you are a divorced parent, one of the best feelings in the world is seeing your child come back after a vacation or stay with the ex – because if you were honest enough, you’d rather avoid handing over your child, in the first place.

Despite the fact that your ex will take care of your child, it’s still difficult to endure the long wait before they come back. As a parent, it’s natural to worry about their welfare, as well as wonder if your ex will do a good job (especially if you came from a high-conflict divorce). You want the kids by your side, but even the best child custody attorney in Albuquerque would discourage you from being selfish with the non-custodial parent.

Handovers are bittersweet moments and in some cases, difficult to manage.

Fortunately, there are things you can do to ease the angst:

Realism Matters

The upcoming reunion results in a basket of mixed emotions: eagerness, excitement, and nervousness. You need to come to terms with the reality that there’s bound to be some emotional baggage – if not from you, then perhaps from your child, your ex, or maybe someone else in your immediate family.

Acknowledging the reality that not everyone will accept the “handover moment” in the same way should be where you start. Approach the future reunion (or, the future goodbye) realistically. Know that the possibility of an awkward shift is very real, and give people – including you – time to adjust and settle back into normalcy.

Sympathize with the Other Side

Your reunion with your child encourages anticipation and excitement. The ecstatic feeling makes it easier to ignore the feelings of the other side. While you dream of the day your child hugs you back, your ex probably dreads the day they hug them goodbye.

There’s nothing to lose when you sympathize with your ex-spouse. Don’t take it personally when they become frustrated or angry; they will just miss your child. Rather than lash out or be smug about the ordeal, keep your feelings in check. Be polite and keep it as civil as possible.

Having your child back can be an amazing experience, especially if you get through the handover. With a little sensitivity, you’ll get through this awkward phase.